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Comment on Don’t Be Judgmental. by indianhomemaker

indianhomemaker — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 17:41:52 +0000

I agree, being vocal about one’s judgment is what makes it really bad. I think I judge intolerance… and very vocal judgment

Comment on Don’t Be Judgmental. by apu

apu — Thu, 15 Dec 2011 06:04:00 +0000

R’s Mom - so nice to see you’re still following here I agree - reg the being vocal bit - I sometimes feeling that the main difference between being judgmental or not is how much one talks about it - and of course, not all of one’s “judgements” need to be shared!

Comment on Don’t Be Judgmental. by R's Mom

R's Mom — Thu, 15 Dec 2011 03:50:40 +0000

And you are back….good to see this space updated

We all judge dont we…some people are more vocal about it and some people are not…

I dont think anyone can manage to stay above judging..its so difficult na

Comment on The effect of not wearing Mangalsutra by Nikhil

Nikhil — Fri, 25 Nov 2011 11:29:12 +0000

@asmita
If it does leave some vibrations or is good for health then why only married women get to wear it? don’t those vibrations that come off the thalis/mangalsutras benefit unmarried/single/divorced/widowed women? what about places in India where wearing mangalsutra as a symbol or demostration of marriage isn’t the norm? Are womenfolk from those culture at some disadvantage?

Comment on Let’s Kill Chivalry! by Nikhil

Nikhil — Fri, 25 Nov 2011 10:16:34 +0000

Also I came across another arguement lately. A guy believes that helping a woman who’s being molested is somehow an act of chivalry and if girls want chivalry to end, then they shouldn’t ask for men’s help in such a scenario. I am amused. Because I thought helping a person of any gender or age or caste or creed in such a scenario where somebody’s being harmed entails humanity not chivalry. It’s about standing up against such atrocious behavior whether you are a male or female. What’s your take?

Comment on Let’s Kill Chivalry! by Nikhil

Nikhil — Fri, 25 Nov 2011 10:11:01 +0000

I agree! Being courteous is not a gendered responsibility. Going Dutch is a way to go, if it isn’t one person treating the other or if you’re with an acquaintance or colleague.

Everybody likes to be pampered once in a while, be it a guy or a girl. Pampering somebody out of love regardless of gender is what makes somebody feel special.

Giving away seats to or opening doors for old people, pregnant women, women or men with an infant along with loads of luggage, disabled men or women is being polite and helpful. However giving away seat to an able bodied woman just because she is a woman shows a little condescension. Many guys may not see it that way but Chivalry in medieval times referred to the sum of the ideal qualifications of a knight especially courage, honor, justice, and a “readiness to help the weak”-womenfolk considered frail at that time fell into this category.

There are many men who misconstrue it for respect-they may act all gentlemanly but feel that a woman’s place is in the kitchen and she’d be thankful to her husband for everything her husband provides her with. Not all the guys who show this special courteousness to women mean to demean women though. I have seen a few who believe in egalitarian relationship do this to their ladies and others simply “as mark of respect”-that’s what they think. However, there are plenty of men abound who feel cheated somehow-they think if a woman wants equality she should be ready to carry out many tasks by herself, playing frail and asking your male colleague to carry a bag to 4th floor is taking unfair advantage of your gender.

Comment on The effect of not wearing Mangalsutra by Aadarshini Gujarati

Aadarshini Gujarati — Sun, 20 Nov 2011 03:09:54 +0000

I fall on the traditional side; not that I think some weird supernatural force will effect you necessarily but there are usually good reasons for traditions that evolved over thousands of years and I don’t expect to possess that much knowledge in my short lifetime.

Comment on Disability & Parenting: Deivathirumagal by divya

divya — Sat, 29 Oct 2011 09:19:08 +0000

try ‘aval appidithan’ (’she is like that only’); it stars both kamal hassan and rajinikanth in non-’superstar’ roles. wiki it for more. i’d like to see a review, if you can.

Comment on Sita’s Banishment by munu

munu — Mon, 24 Oct 2011 13:43:34 +0000

@Prabha Madhavan
I know where u r co0ming from.

Comment on Protecting Hinduism by Attacking Hindu Women by Wiccan Louisa

Wiccan Louisa — Mon, 03 Oct 2011 13:00:04 +0000

Thanks very much for this article, it was interesting for me as a Pagan to read that Hinduism reveres things in nature (as does Paganism) and also about the idea of being able to worship the form of god that makes sense to you, which although not explicitly said in Paganism, is definitely a belief of Pagans.

It’s sad that men are persecuting women and I thank you for spreading the word about it here.

Preeti - yes that does seems odd that these people wouldn’t read you holy texts, I think sometimes people are looking for an excuse for extreme behaviour rather than actually caring about what a particular religion says.